People still email today about jobs they’ve accepted that they didn’t even want, and how they’re coping with the reality of poorly paid, boring jobs and trying to make the most of it.
This is a good example of what I mean Vibration cringe. It’s a vibrationally compromising choice that people don’t even want to make, but they do it to themselves anyway, even knowing the emotional consequences can be dire.
In most cases they are right. It’s scary, sometimes worse than they expected, sometimes not so bad. But usually their desired results are pretty accurate. They go through the motions but don’t quite enjoy the experience. They coped, but they didn’t prosper.
Often these people appear to be intelligent and self-aware. They have no delusions that they are walking into a trap, but they still do it to themselves.
So why do so many people ignore the warning of Admiral Akbar’s classic “It’s a Trap!”
The main reason these people fall into traps intentionally is because they feel they have no choice. They need money. They have bills to pay. No other opportunity presented itself. They may claim that they have tried everything else and this is their last resort.
Objectively speaking, this makes sense. But I don’t look at these situations objectively because the objective version doesn’t feel real to me. This is just a small part of what’s really going on.
It is vibrational reality that really governs all of this, not the objective side. Your vibrational reality will manifest through your decisions.
In order to make a vibrational cringe choice that clearly goes against your heart and inner senses, you need to be in a vibrational cringe space from the start – a space like worry, fear, trepidation, confusion, stress, etc.
If you are in a different vibrational space—such as love, joy, wonder, abundance, trust, fun, expansion—then walking into an obvious trap is unattractive. You may not even see this possibility on your radar.
Do both have bills to pay? certainly. Each of them has objective reality to face. Objective reality is also very flexible, but what it looks like depends on one’s vibrational reality.
If you exhibit vibrational flinching from objective reality, you’ll experience daunting choices, such as running out of money or taking a job you don’t really want. Your reality may indeed offer you zero good options. So your choice is among the bad, worse, and worst options, and the best choice you make is choosing the bad. From a purely objective perspective, this is a reasonable decision. However, you don’t live in a purely objective reality, so from a broader perspective, there is a more informed way to make such decisions.
What options does objective reality offer to those in a space of vibrational harmony? In this space you’ll find good, great and outstanding options. Do something you enjoy and that is rewarding. Do something else fun and exciting and let the money appear as an unexpected bonus. Go meditate…and then an idea comes to you that later proves to be very profitable. All of this is normal for you. You haven’t even seen or considered the options that would break your heart. If you are filled with delightful possibilities, why seek them out?
Personally, I have experienced both vibrational realities, but at different times in my life. I can objectively attest that they are both very real and reliable – or at least that’s what it seems like in one of them.
What is the key to transitioning from one vibrational reality to another? It’s actually very simple. You passed the test given to you.
What test?
The nature of the test is as follows: Can you fall into a vibration trap? Will you choose a daunting path? Will you go against your heart?
You can’t pretend to be on the same page. You cannot pretend to believe in vibrational reality. Life will test you from time to time and help you see where you really are.
Those who adapt to the first reality will fail this test. They will choose the path without heart. They will then experience this reality for a period of time – as long as they keep choosing and facing it.
Those who adapt to the second reality will pass such a test. This is easy to say no to – not particularly enticing. They see it as a trap and categorically reject it as patently wrong.
What if you don’t see a mindful path? What if all you see are ruthless choices?
Someone in the first reality will compromise and go down a ruthless path. They will be more intense due to fear, worry, stress, anxiety, or embarrassment (cringe-worthy vibes) and less intense due to trust, love, joy, curiosity, courage, etc. Therefore, they make fear-based decisions that are aligned with their vibrational truth.
People in the second reality will know that it is unwise to choose the path of ruthlessness. They will wait until one or more mutually beneficial paths reveal themselves, even if it means letting go The objective world collapses for a while. They will resonate more strongly with a vibrational reality rooted in trust, courage, creativity, and more. They may still see fear-based possibilities, but they will wisely put those possibilities aside because they are not smart enough.
Both options are great if we’re honest. If you resonate with the cringe-worthy vibe, go ahead and make the cringe-worthy decisions so you can immerse yourself in experiencing them. This is a big reason why you are here in this life. You can make vibrational decisions and see what “objective” reality they produce for you. You can then make more detailed decisions within the bounds of objective reality.
When you are ready to do so, you can return to the vibrational level of reality and make different vibrational decisions. You’ll then experience objective reality – and a series of more detailed decisions – from a non-intimidating atmospheric space.
Both are valuable.
I spent many years of my life in a daunting space, but it was an interesting journey. I made a choice that went against my heart. I compromise to meet other people’s expectations when I don’t want to. I followed society’s rules instead of my own. I racked up a lot of cringeworthy credits…until finally I was ready to move on and end this existing pattern.
Eventually I just got tired of it. I ran out of energy, gave up, surrendered. I had my “Fuck this!” moment. I felt like I had been through enough frustration and depression that I saw no point in continuing to participate in life in this way. Eventually I realized that my lifestyle was ridiculous and clearly not for me. This helped me ask different types of questions, one of which was particularly helpful: What reality am I actually living in?
I sense that reality may be different than I imagined. I think a good way to find out is to start making decisions that feel right or at least really hopeful or interesting but go against my old model of reality. I started doing things I had previously told myself I couldn’t or shouldn’t do – like volunteering while I was broke. I also started saying no to traps, which took a while because I was still in some traps that I didn’t recognize.
After that, the experience of transitioning into a new vibrational reality is like a wave. I didn’t immediately enter a new objective reality. It was more of a progression in waves, and I would say that continues to this day.
Waves have the following properties: Keep letting go of lies. Continue to release things that don’t feel like some form of love. Stop doing things that don’t feel right, even until a replacement comes along. The wrong path is rejected first, even if a better path is not yet visible.
There is also this property: Doing what truly feels right in my heart, even if zero other people feel the same. Love everyone. Follow the path with all your heart, even if it leads into unfamiliar territory. Keep turning to things that feel inspiring. Do more things that make me happy and less things that don’t make me happy.
When life is inspiring and genuine, it’s relatively easy to pay the bills. This can be handled with 10% or less of your attention, and can be done in a fun and meaningful way rather than painful or scary. When the heart is truly ignited and motivation continues to rise, excess capacity will appear. This abundant heart energy is enough to meet our needs and most needs.
What should I do if I have a problem? When the heart is filled with happiness and joy, problem solving becomes fun and engaging. Playing the most immersive video games can seem a bit dull by comparison. The problems that some people love to solve and others are afraid to face are often the same problems.
What to do when looking for a job? Just let it light you up and make your heart sing. Not if it’s just to pay for it. It’s a different type of search, right? First filter based on: Will I like this? Does this direction light me up? Is my heart screaming, yes, yes, oh yes, okay?
Or create your own jobs—many of which are never listed anywhere. They are created by like-minded people who see wonderful opportunities to contribute.
Investing in your soul will pay off very well.
