When a narcissist is nice to you, it doesn’t mean they are nice to you sincere. A narcissist is a manipulative person with selfish attitudes.
If a narcissist is being nice to you, it may not be the way you think. I’ll be blunt. They may not care about you as much as they claim. There is usually an underlying reason for their good behavior, which is to derive selfish benefits from their actions. This is a tough pill to swallow. I get it.
Be careful when a narcissist is nice to you.
Narcissists can be scary. This isn’t always due to physical fear. this degree of manipulation The drugs this toxic person uses can have devastating consequences on your mental health and future. So today, we want to explore the real reasons why a narcissist plays the kindness card or chooses to seduce you with falsehoods.
Here are a few reasons why a narcissist might be nice to you.
1. They get narcissistic supply
Never forget that a narcissist must always have a “supply”. Their supply source must be willing to give them attention and praise them for completing ordinary tasks. Otherwise, they will collapse.
Narcissists thrive on the devotion of others. So, when a narcissist is nice to you, they are probably doing it to retain their supply. If they feel like you’re actually doing something for yourself, they’ll turn to love bombing.
2. They love bomb you
speaking of love bombingwhich is another reason why a narcissist treats you well. In the beginning, this toxic person will shower you with gifts, compliments, and compliments. They understand that in order to obtain narcissistic supply, they must make you fall in love with them quickly. When you do this, they will gradually reduce their positive behavior.
This is called love bombing, and it’s insidious.
3. “Tit for tat” mentality
At this point, the narcissist will do something nice to prepare you for future guilt. What I mean is: they did something thoughtful enough for you so that they can use that in a later argument.
Narcissists are notorious for bringing up anything from the past that makes them look good and anything that makes you look bad. When you do something that upsets them, or you tell them no, they say things like:
“I’ve done so many good things for you, let’s see how you repay me.”
Does this sound familiar?
4. They make you dependent on them
Narcissists treat you well so they retain control. For example, they might say,
“You don’t have to work, I’ll take care of you”.
The purpose of this is to take away your independence, so when you realize who they are, it will be difficult to leave them. This is behavior programmed into most narcissists from the start. It’s often intertwined with the love bombing they use. If you decide to let them take care of you, they rarely deliver on their promises.
5. They want to win you back
When a narcissist sees that you have figured them outthey do one or two things. They will either move to another supply source or try to win you back. If they are trying to win you back, they will go above and beyond with friendly gestures.
While some people actually want to change their relationship, a narcissist just wants to keep you around because you are usually highly empathetic. Empathy is something narcissists like to thrive on.
6. They want others to see them
One of the reasons narcissists treat you well is because they want others to see what they do. To those who don’t know their truth, they appear to be kind and considerate people.
As you can see, narcissists can be kind, but they choose to make kindness another part of their performance. To them, kindness is as fake as they are. Unless you live with a narcissist or have lived with one in the past, you won’t be able to see how evil their behavior really is.
Why are they like this?
Narcissists lose who they really are early on. As a result of various forms of abuse, these toxic people come to believe that manipulative and selfish behavior is normal. It’s not. They are usually victims Neglected as a childor suffer verbal and emotional abuse from parents or other loved ones.
However, it is not your responsibility to fix them. Because, for one thing, it’s very difficult to get them to seek treatment. They deny what they did and they claim there is something wrong with you. They can also lead others to believe that you also have this problem. In this way, they can become dangerous people who ruin your life.
I know some of you care deeply about narcissists. but if you’re not treat them with caretheir behavior can damage your self-esteem and your overall mental health and well-being. In some cases, these problems can lead to physical health problems.
So maybe suggest they seek help, but don’t let them change your view of yourself. Stay strong and stay away from them if you need to.
Sending you all the love on your journey.
Staff writer exist learning mentality
Sherrie Hurd is a professional writer and artist with over 20 years of experience. As a survivor of childhood trauma and multiple forms of abuse, she is an advocate for mental health awareness. Shirley suffers from multiple mental illnesses, including anxiety, bipolar disorder and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). With this background and personal experience, she strives to help others overcome trauma and abuse, cope with mental illness, and heal over time.
